Do you remember that persistent question you faced from a very young age?
What do you want to do when you grow up?
I always hated that question. (Because, how did I know?)
I believe we are asking kids (and ourselves) the wrong question. Instead we should be asking…
Who do you want to become?
We are surrounded by a culture where the focus is on “appearances.” Who thinks about what a person can become? People are impressed by good looks, by how well you speak or how strong you are. How are we to help our kids combat this bias?
By teaching them to look inside.
Our current Rotation is a good place to start. In our story, David is chosen as the next king of Israel. Can you hear his family sputtering, “Him? He’s just a young boy; a lowly sheep-keeper.”
Ah, but we learn that God doesn’t look at outside qualities, he looks at our inside, at our heart.
Here’s what God tells Samuel about why David’s older brother, Eliab, wasn’t the one chosen king:
Samuel, don’t think Eliab is the one just because he’s tall and handsome. He isn’t the one I’ve chosen. People judge others by what they look like, but I judge people by what is in their hearts. 1 Samuel 16:7
What did God “see” in David’s heart?
David is thought to have been between 10 and 15 years old when he was designated as Israel’s next king, but he didn’t take the leadership right away. David continued to care for sheep, building courage, a good leadership quality. David also wrote Psalms. We can look in his Psalms to find other seen-by-God heart characteristics.
Bring out a Bible and read the following Psalms. Try to figure out the heart quality conveyed.
- Psalm 23 “The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want…” (Potential expressed heart-quality: Trust)
- Psalm 5:7 “I am filled with wonder as I bow down to worship.” (A worshipful attitude)
- Psalm 139:14 “I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous! Of this I have no doubt.” (Gratitude)
- Psalm 5:3 “Each morning you listen to my prayer, as I bring my requests to you and wait for your reply.” (Asking for help)
- Psalm 19:11 “By your teachings, Lord, I am warned; by obeying them, I am greatly rewarded.” (Obedience)
- Psalm 25:11 “Be true to your name, Lord, by forgiving each one of my terrible sins.” (A repentant attitude)
- Psalm 16:2 “I say to God, ‘Be my Lord!’ Without you, nothing makes sense.” (taken from The Message) (Realizing the importance of a connection to God)
God sees these qualities and possibilities in each one of us; each person is important to God. God looks at who we can become.
Discuss with your family about what heart-attitudes you see in each other. You may be surprised!
Are their qualities you need to work on adding?
Who do you want to become?