How to love others

Cute little girl holding red heart - a 1910 Valentine greeting
 
Did you get any valentines last week?
 
Why do we need a “Hallmark holiday” to remind us to love those around us?

 

Because sometimes it’s hard to love.

I’m not talking about your loving your family and your friends. I’m talking about loving those who are different, or difficult, or down-right irritating!

But Jesus told us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves (Matthew 22:37-39).

Doing good, loving our neighbor — the stranger, the person who pushes our boundaries — it’s easier said than done.

Last week we talked about ways to love God. By loving God we are keeping the first four of the Ten Commandments. By loving our neighbor we are following the last six.

Love God Love Others
1.  Do not worship any god except me. 5.  Respect your father and mother.
2.  Do not make statues of gods (idols). 6.  Do not murder.
3.  Do not misuse my name. 7.  Do not commit adultery.
4.  Remember the Sabbath day. 8.  Do not steal.
9.  Do not tell lies about others.
10. Do not long for what belongs to
     someone else.

 

How do we talk to our family about loving our neighbor?

 
Start close to home…

  • Identify who your neighbors are. Do you know the names of the people who live around you?
  • Discuss why you live where you do. Did the “neighborhood” have anything to do with where you live?
  • What are some activities you enjoy doing? How might these activities help you to be more neighborly to those in your neighborhood?

Move out a bit…

  • Did Jesus mean neighbor, as in someone who lives next door?
  • Name some of our “neighbors” who don’t live in your neighborhood.
  • How do we recognize a “neighbor?” (Hint: It’s about recognizing a need.)
  • What are some needs we see in our community? In the world?
  • Move out further…

  • What do we do with our doubts? (The needs are so great!)
  • What if people around us want to throw their hands up and say, “What good can I do”?
  • What do we do when our attempts to “love” a neighbor are rejected?
  • How can we persevere?
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    How is your life a testimony to your love of God and neighbor?


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    A valentine from 1910 by Royce Bair via Stock Solution Photo Agency. Shared under a Creative Commons License.

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    Loving God by loving others with our words

    It has been a while since I’ve written a blessing for you to use with your child. How about one that ties to our current Rotation story on the Jesus’ Greatest Commandment? Something about loving God with all you’ve got, and loving others as you love yourself.

    A blessing is a way of giving someone love, and when you love others you are loving God.

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    Here is a suggested blessing that is good to use with little ones (and touches on the all you’ve got portion of our Bible story). Touch each part of their body as you say the words…

    May your head always think thoughts of God.
    May your ears hear whispers of God’s love.
    May your eyes see God’s wonders.
    May your lips speak kind words to others.
    May your heart beat strongly in tune to God’s ways.
    May your hands do the work of God.
    May you spend time on your knees in God’s presence.
    May your feet always follow God’s path.

    You will be speaking words to your child that are like love letters from God, delivered by you.


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    Photo credits:
    Father and daughter by Judy Baxter, who licensed this photo on Flickr under a Creative Commons License.

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    How to love God

    Let’s review the Ten Commandments. What was the first one?

    A sign says 'Rule #1: Don't pick up the goats'

     
    Well, the Ten Commandments can be hard to remember. I guess it’s a good thing that this month we are learning about how Jesus shortened them for us by giving us what is called the Greatest Commandment.

    Someone once asked Jesus which of God’s rules was the most important. Jesus’ reply recorded in Matthew 22:34-40, actually had two parts. He essentially told us to

    Love God, and love your neighbor.

    What a minute; I don’t remember either of those as one of the Ten C. What gives?

    Jesus didn’t pick from the ten; he summarized all of the commandments into two. In fact we see that this nicely divides the Ten Commandments! The first four of the ten, show us how to love God (Exodus 20:3-11). The last six show us how to love others (Exodus 20:12-17).

    Love God Love Others
    1.  Do not worship any god except me. 5.  Respect your father and mother.
    2.  Do not make statues of gods (idols). 6.  Do not murder.
    3.  Do not misuse my name. 7.  Do not commit adultery.
    4.  Remember the Sabbath day. 8.  Do not steal.
    9.  Do not tell lies about others.
    10. Do not long for what belongs to
    someone else.

     
    Here is a discussion outline for your family to take a closer look at following the first portion of the Greatest Commandment: How to love God.

    (For a discussion guide on talking about how to love others, look here.)

    Spend time as a family (at the family dinner table perhaps) with everyone sharing one glad and one sad for the day. (Don’t try to fix anything, just listen and celebrate / commiserate.)

    a blue line

    Tell kids that you are going to play a game. Have everyone think of something they love (a person, a place or a thing). Also have everyone think of something that they don’t love. Then go around the table and have everyone say “I love ____” filling in the blank with something that they love or don’t love. Have everyone decide if they really do love that item. Play a few rounds. Who can stump everyone with their choices?

    Ask: What clues tell us that you love something?
    How do you suppose people know that we love God?
    How do we show that we love God?
    Make a list and post it on the fridge! Are you doing these things every day?

    A list of ways to love God

    Not to detract from following the Ten Commandments but if we focus on loving God, in a sense we will be living the first four of the Ten Commandments and won’t have to worry about the details. By loving God we will be automatically obeying the first four commandments!


    Photo credits:
    For the love of goats (a sign at a petting zoo) by Gord McKenna, who licensed this photo on Flickr under a Creative Commons License.

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    Why make commandments? Especially when you know people can’t keep them

    Why did God make laws? Especially when his commandments are really tough to keep. No work on the Sabbath? When was the last time that one got followed? Why make laws when you know that people will end up breaking the rules?

    I’ll give you a hint of the answer:

    To make us realize our need for God’s grace.
    And because God loves us.

    (Okay. That was two hints.)

    Crossing guard

    The next time you are driving in the car with the kids, ask them why you should have to stop whenever you see a red sign of a certain-shape?

    Steer them to realizing the purpose of laws: They keep people safe.

    Next, ask them why they think your family has rules? (Such as: no playing in the street when there is traffic.)

    Direct them to realizing that you have rules to keep them safe and because you love them!

    God had the same reason for giving us the Ten Commandments: he loves us!

    Wait a minute (you may say)… laws can be restricting. They make life no fun!

    And this is for love?
     
    A bit of backstory is needed. When God first handed out his laws, the intent may have seemed as though it was to bring order to an unruly bunch. The newly freed Israelites were at a point where they needed:

    • To recognize who God was,
    • To remember God’s past provision,
    • To recall God’s covenant with their forefathers (and foremothers),
    • To learn how to honor God, (How to stay in love with God!)
    • To establish a new life together learning how to live (and how to act) as God’s people.
    Hmm. Those reasons for laws still apply to us today!
    The  words of Exodus 19:25

     
    It’s time for a bit of discussion at the family dinner table. (Or wherever your family is gathered together.) If needed, cover this over several days.

    This family discussion guide can be printed! Click here.

      Bring out a toaster, or a hair dryer, or other small electrical appliance that has a cautioning label on the cord. Have your family read the warning tag. Ask them why do you suppose the manufacturer placed it there?

      Recall your earlier conversations in the car (or ask those questions now).

    Why did God want to give his people laws? (Accept all replies.)
    Then perhaps offer some answers:

    A.  Because they were misbehaving left and right! They needed laws! (Nope.)

    B.  Because God felt like being in charge! (Nope.)

    C.  Because God loved them and wanted his people to be safe!  

      Read together Exodus 19:3-6.

     
    What does this passage tell you about how God feels for his people?

    Pay close attention to verse 6:

    Open quote markNow obey me completely. Keep my covenant. If you do, then out of all of the nations you will be my special treasure.
     

    God continually seeks a connection with humanity!
    God looks on all of us as his treasured people!

    Let that sink in. (I’m awed.)

    When you are ready for more…

      Re-read Exodus 19:3-6. And then read 1 Peter 2:9.

     
    What does God mean that we are to be his “kingdom of priests?”

    In Bible times only priests could have close access to God. (A priest would
    be similar to Rev. Doug or Rev. Nancy.) To be a “royal priesthood” means that everyone can have a loving relationship with God!

    Ask: If God really loves us & gave us laws to keep us safe & guide us, why are his laws so hard (okay, impossible) to keep? (allow all replies)

    What do you feel like doing when something seems hopeless?
    (You might want help, right!?)

    God’s laws make us aware of the seriousness of sin.

    (Sin is whatever we do, or don’t do, that pushes God, or other people away.)

    God is pained by our sin but is always willing to forgive us when we ask.
    Our inability to keep God’s laws helps us to see how much we need God!

    Ask: Do you suppose that if you could perfectly follow the Ten Commandments that you’d win extra special points with God? (nope!)

    God sent his son, Jesus, to take the punishment for our sin and to establish a new way for us to enter into a relationship with God.

    A relationship based on love!


    Photo credits:
    Kids crossing by jeweledlion. Exodus 19 by thekmochs. (All photos licensed on Flickr under a Creative Commons License and found via photopin.)
    Toaster and other clip art from the public domain via WPClipart.com.

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    The backstory to the Ten Commandments

    I am thankful that you seek for your family a means to connect all of your living to faith!

    Last week I’d said that our Rotation on the Ten Commandments was likely to be difficult for your kids to grasp. Why did I say that? Do you suppose it was because…

    (A) I spent weeks studying this story. How could I expect a child to grasp it?

    +++OR

    (B) It is an Old Testament story, and you know, the Old Testament can be tough…

    +++OR

    (C) The Bible is an unfolding narrative and for the Ten Commandments, there is a lot of important backstory. How could we possibly cover all of the story in Sunday’s Cool!

    Answer: All of the above, but mostly the last one.

    But I can relax! You are here to learn about that backstory and to help extend the learning at home.

    So let’s address the backstory!

    We’ll answer the questions:

    • How Moses and the Ten Commandments connects back to Abraham and Sarah? And Isaac and Rebekah. And Jacob & Rachel. And Joseph and all of his brothers. (They were all related weren’t they?)
    • How did the Israelites end up in Egypt?

    Abraham looking up at the stars

    Remember Abraham? He was living somewhere in current day Iraq and God called him. Over time God revealed his purpose to Abraham: “I want you to be a new tribe; a people that blesses others. You’ll show the world I care!” (Genesis 12:1-3; I’m paraphrasing here.)

    The take-away point is that this was a radical new thought. Consider how other tribes at that time thought of their gods: distant and uncaring. Ponder the prospect of blessing your neighbors when what you’d been trained to do was to wipe them out!

    Seriously different!

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    Question to ponder: Did this new way of thinking stick?

    the family tree of Abraham and Sarah

    So God is starting something big. He makes a Covenant with Abraham which included the promise of lots of descendants. And sure enough, God sticks to his promise! We met some of Abraham’s extended family when we covered the stories of Abraham’s son Isaac and his grandsons Jacob and Esau, and his numerous great-grandchildren (Jacob’s kids), including Joseph (with the multi-colored coat).

    It was Joseph who caused the family (known as Hebrews or Israelites) to move to Egypt (Genesis 27:28, 42:3, 46:27). In fact, for a review on that story, let’s watch a video! (One that stars our kids!)

    Can’t see the video? View it here on Vimeo.

    Very entertaining!

    Okay. We’ve still got some ground to cover to bring us to our story of Moses and the Ten C… So all of Jacob and his sons and their families (the stars in the video!) moved to Egypt; there were about 70 of them (of course in those days they only counted the men). Four hundred years later Abraham’s progeny have grown to include 600,000 — you guessed it — men! (Exodus 12:37).

    However, life is not rosy for these descendants of Abraham. They are living in slavery in Egypt under a cruel pharaoh. Yet, God has not forgotten his covenant with these people. (Oh, yes – God had added to his promises: an enduring relationship with Abraham’s extended family, and as Genesis 17:7 reminds us: “I will be their God.”)

    So God calls Moses (through a burning bush) to lead the Israelites out of Egypt to freedom. Many plagues later, they are on their way “home” to God’s promised land!

    Mt. Sinai Before Sunrise
    Mt. Sinai

    There is much drama in the tales which follow: their escape complete with a dramatic water crossing, journeying through the desert, manna from heaven, water from rocks, and finally, vivid events on Mount Sinai, where the story of the Ten Commandments takes place.

    Whew! The backstory is complete!
    Now read our current story: Exodus 19:1-11, 16-19; 20:1-17; 24:1-2, 12-18; 31:18-32:24. I’m sure that it will be the backstory to yet another story!


    Credits:
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    Abram counts stars by Stjepan Mokatelo, via Christian Clip Art.
    I created the family tree.
    The video starred kids in 1st-6th grade at FUMC in Ann Arbor, MI. (Many, many thanks to Tom Gardner as photographer and video creator!)
    Mt. Sinai by YoHandy, who licensed this photo on Flickr under a Creative Commons License.

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    The Ten Commandments: January schedule

    A good idea for a New Year’s resolution: include faith conversation with your family. Receive help in this endeavor by subscribing over on the right. Enter your e-mail address to have posts (usually one a week) sent directly to your inbox. Or click on the orange RSS icon to subscribe in a reader. 

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    A quizzical-looking boy holds what appears to be ten commandment tablets

    In January we are studying the Ten Commandments.

    I hate to admit this, but… this may be a Rotation that your kids have trouble grasping.

    But there is a way to combat this problem!

    +++++Continue the learning at home!

    Here is a place to start.

    For Saturdays at the Green Wood location, here is the schedule…

    Date Workshop Activity
    1/11 Drama Workshop Students will act out modern-day scenarios of the 10 commandments, challenging listeners to determine which commandment is involved.
    1/18 Music Workshop Watch two music videos. Sing and dance along to learn about the Ten Commandments!
    1/25 Art Workshop Create a keepsake copy of the Ten Commandment tablets.

    And on Sundays, at the downtown location…

    Date Our workshops…
    1/5 Enjoy worship and Communion with your family
    Art 1 Art 2 Drama 1 Drama 2 Music
    Pine Room Social Hall Room 204 Room 215 Room 211
    1/12 (closed) 4th grade 5th & 6th grades 3rd grade 1st & 2nd grades
    1/19 1st grade 5th & 6th grades (closed) 2nd grade 3rd & 4th grades
    1/26 2nd grade 3rd grade 4th grade 1st grade 5th & 6th grades

    What’s happening in each workshop?

    • A keepsake copy of the Ten Commandment tablets

      In the Art Workshop students will create a keepsake copy of the Ten Commandment tablets. (Both Art 1 and Art 2 will do the same project.)

    • A golden calf

      In the Drama 1 Workshop students will enact the story as it is told by the leader; making use of props & music. Rumor says a golden calf will be there?

    • In the Drama 2 Workshop students will participate in acting out modern day scenarios of the Ten Commandments in action. Which commandment is represented in each scenario?
    • In the Music Workshop students visit the Bible mural timeline (and learn what the peachy-orange color signifies). Then they’ll watch a couple of music videos to learn about the Ten Commandments. (Dancing is optional.) Preview the videos here and here.


    We do a different sort of Christian education for kids. We are a Workshop Rotation Model church. If you are in the area please join us for the fun learning at First United Methodist Church in Ann Arbor, MI


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    The “what is going on” child remixed by Carol Hulbert from an original photo by woodleywonderworks.
    Golden calf by allspice1, all via photopin under a Creative Commons License on Flickr.
    Tablets photo from my archives.

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    In this new year, I have a wish for you

    Happy New Year!

    I hope that your new year will be filled with peace, and prosperity,
    and encounters with the presence of God.

    Oh shucks, that’s not my real wish.

    I mean, yes, I really do desire all of that for you,
    but here’s what I’m honestly hoping for…

    That your family spends time together
    incorporating stories from the Bible into your everyday life.

    I’m hoping that when your child invites a friend over for dinner and this friend hears your family making sacred connections with the secular, and they question your child about this behavior, your kid proudly says, “this is what we do.”

    How can you get to this point?

    Read together the Bible. (Use a story Bible if your kids are young – here’s a good one: The Jesus Storybook Bible.)
    Ask a question that start with the words “I wonder…”
    Listen carefully to everyone’s replies.
    Repeat.

    For example, to prepare for our upcoming Rotation on the Ten Commandments, review the story of Abraham and Sarah. Read Genesis 12:1-4, and 15:1-5, and 17:1-9.
    Then ask:

    • I wonder if God’s promises to Abraham ever came true?
    • I wonder what an everlasting covenant is?
    • I wonder how this story ties to the Ten Commandments?

    Refer to this post if you’d like more discussion questions.

    What can you do today, to practice what you hope to achieve in the coming year?


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    New Year’s greeting from 1910, by Puzzler4879 under a Creative Commons License on Flickr.

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